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A mint green onesie and the shaping of 'us'
Photo: Ariel Moy I bought a mint green size 0000 onesie halfway through my pregnancy. I hadn’t done a lot of shopping. Morning sickness...
Ariel Moy
Mar 146 min read


The relationship in the room: Sensing and seeing a mother/child 'us'
Recently I had the privilege of watching a series of videos showing encounters between primary caregivers and their children (aged 0-5...
Ariel Moy
Oct 23, 20238 min read
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The Adolescent ‘Us’: Creating Spaciousness in the Mother/Child Relationship
Conveying a practical sense of the mother/child ‘us’ - the relationship that holds mother and child together - is often most easily...
Ariel Moy
Sep 5, 20226 min read
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Layers – Musings on Motherhood, the Pandemic and the Earth’s Anatomy
As I sit here attempting to give form to my musings and questions around mothering, I compete for warmth with my son who, yet again, is...
Ariel Moy
Jul 22, 20215 min read
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Busyness and Invisible Holding
Our TV has a screen saver that rotates a collection of family photos. I often see an image come up of my son in my partner’s arms the day...
Ariel Moy
May 8, 20217 min read
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The 'Good Enough' Mother and Holding
No one can quite define what a perfect mother would look like and yet we’re haunted daily by the feeling that whatever that perfection is, w
Ariel Moy
Mar 31, 20216 min read
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The Shock of the New Mother/Child Us
Nothing can prepare you for the first time you hold your child in your arms. Even if you’ve had three children before you can’t prepare...
Ariel Moy
Feb 3, 20215 min read
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Virtual Holding: Technology and Care
2020 has been a year of separations. Many of us have had extended periods of physical distancing and when we do meet others, our faces...
Ariel Moy
Dec 19, 20206 min read
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Holding Our Children, Holding Ourselves
As mothers we watch our children grow and we know that both intentionally and inadvertently we contribute to the ways in which they...
Ariel Moy
Dec 2, 20207 min read
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Could Holding be a Circuit Breaker?
The quote above is from a mother called Kitty who didn’t shy away from talking about the moments when the last thing she wanted to do was ho
Ariel Moy
Oct 20, 20205 min read
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George Floyd Asked for His Mother Nine Times Before He Died
“Momma, I love you. I can’t do nothing”
Ariel Moy
Aug 14, 20204 min read
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Why I Love the Phrase: 'Calm the Farm'
You might wonder why I’d write about a phrase that on the surface appears to tell people to ‘just chill out’.
Ariel Moy
Jul 10, 20206 min read
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Holding Your Teenager
Holding your teenager in different ways. Keeping the offer for affection open.
Ariel Moy
May 29, 20205 min read
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The Way My Nan Held Me
I remember her hands.
Ariel Moy
May 10, 20205 min read
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Cultural Messages and Expectations About Mothering
When I first began researching holding, I looked up ‘mother holding child’ on the internet, I particularly wanted to see what images...
Ariel Moy
May 2, 20206 min read
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Creative, Quick and Easy Ways of Exploring Holding
So, you’re not an artist, you don’t have oil paints, you have three children under 5 years of age, you have painful arthritis, you have...
Ariel Moy
Apr 30, 20206 min read
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How the Arts Helped Us Explore Holding
There are many valuable ways to explore holding. We could have created a questionnaire and given it to a large random selection of...
Ariel Moy
Apr 25, 20205 min read
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Holding and Social Isolation
For many parents, an upside of the terrible virus currently re-shaping our world is that we get to spend more time with our children. A...
Ariel Moy
Apr 20, 20203 min read
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Stories of Us - Research Findings #3
All participants shared stories of holding, both verbal and visual, through their drawings, collage, installations and explorations....
Ariel Moy
Apr 17, 20205 min read
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A Strange Experience of Expansion - Research Findings #2
Along with a sense of purpose experienced during holding, participants felt that they deliberately expanded what they were capable of in...
Ariel Moy
Apr 14, 20203 min read
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